I am very proud to be representing the Knights of Columbus at this meeting of
the World Congress of Families; and am also very proud to be here
with the brave people of Poland to talk about the importance of the family.
Poland knows the very simple truth that is this: a nation has no future without
healthy families that welcome children and educate them in cultural, ethical and
And since we are meeting in Poland, I thought it appropriate to ground my
remarks in the thought of one of the most famous sons of this country, the
Servant of God, Pope John Paul II. His many years of teaching about the family
form a strong foundation for thinking about the family’s role as the seedbed for
national renewal. It was John Paul II who reminded us in 1981 that “the future
of humanity passes by way of the family.”
With the collapse of communism in Europe, a new danger threatens the
existence of the family. That danger is an aggressive consumerism that has
resulted in a collapsing birth rate and an anti-life mentality that pervades
personal and societal way of thinking.
The central crisis confronting the family in the West is a crisis of
anthropology – a crisis of the proper understanding of the nature of human
person. The problem consists of a faulty anthropology that detaches human
freedom from the truth, and values the person in strictly individualistic and
materialistic terms. This was the great error of Communism, and it now presents
an enormous challenge to the consumer cultures of the West.
Indeed, the reduction of the family to its economic component has been
the great temptation of the West.
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We know that the Industrial Revolution of the 18th century brought
tremendous suffering to families as the economies of Europe underwent
transformation from agriculture to manufacturing. The demands of the new
industrial economy weakened the social fabric of the family. In the 19th
capitalism tended to undermine the family by valuing it only for its economic
worth -- and then only as a source for labor.
The socialist response of Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels only increased
the assault on family life by insisting that every man and every woman join the
labor force. Socialist theory sought an evolution of the family to the point
would disappear. Its disappearance was seen as a necessary condition for the
emergence of the free and emancipated socialist person.
At the same time that classical socialist theory was developing, John Stuart
Mill, the great British philosopher and the father of classical liberal
political theory, was proposing a view of marriage similar in many respects to
that of Marx and Engels. For Mill, marriage was seen as an institution of
oppression that prevented the attainment of individual liberty and equality.
These ideologies – classical socialism and classical liberalism – have left
us with a cultural legacy that undermines the family even in our present day. In
the past four decades we have seen many western democracies change their
laws to accommodate divorce, abortion, euthanasia and same-sex unions. In
most cases, this was done under the pretext of promoting a particular notion of
freedom and liberation.
We all know that the steady attacks on the family in the name of freedom
are having far-reaching consequences. Legal abortion results in two victims: the
unborn child and the post-abortive woman who can suffer a lifetime of depression
and anxiety related to her abortion experience. Divorce destroys countless
marriages, and has far-reaching implications for children who are raised in
shattered or blended homes. Same-sex relationships are becoming increasingly
accepted as worthy of marriage in some Western countries. Young men and
women increasingly chose to cohabitate rather than to marry. And even among
couples who do marry, a contraceptive mentality often views children as no
longer the welcome fruit of married life.
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According to the United Nations, the population of Europe has already
passed through its peak and has now entered a steady and steep decline. The
UN predicts that Europe’s population will fall from a total of more than 731
in 2007 to 626 million in 2050. In other words, in less than 50 years, the
population of Europe will diminish by 105 million. Today, the birthrate in
is just 1.3 children per woman -- well below the 2.1 average considered to be
population replacement level. At the center of this “demographic winter” is a
pervasive anti-life mentality.
In his 1981 Apostolic Exhortation Familiaris Consortio, Pope John Paul II
reminded us that the root cause of the predominant anti-life mentality is the
corruption of the very idea and experience of freedom. The error is when freedom
is conceived not as the capacity to realize the truth of God’s plan for marriage
and family, but as autonomous power of self-affirmation, often asserted against
others, for one’s own selfish well-being.”
Paradoxically, in the more developed countries, the subtext for the falling
birthrates appears to be a lack of genuine hope for the future. John Paul II
observed that in those nations with stronger economies there appears to be a
“certain anguish and uncertainty about the future.” This uncertainty deprives
married couples of the generosity needed for having and raising children. Thus,
“new life is perceived not as a blessing, but as a danger from which one must
The modern family is caught in a struggle between freedoms that are in mutual
conflict – a conflict articulated by St. Augustine as one between two loves: the
love of God to the point of disregarding self, and the love of self to the point
of disregarding God.
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Of course, an anti-life mentality affects not only the natural family – it
ripples out into the larger society. Euthanasia is becoming commonplace in an
increasing number of nations. In the United States, the State of Oregon
physician-assisted suicide in 1997, and attempts to legislate it in other states
persist. The Netherlands and Belgium became the first European countries to
legalize the practice in 2002. “Suicide tourists” are known to make their last
earthly stop in Switzerland. The Italian daily Avvenire
perhaps summed up the situation best in a headline that read: “Euthanasia: The
The same arguments favoring freedom and personal autonomy that
proved so successful in the debates regarding the legalization of abortion
to be succeeding in advancing the cause of euthanasia.
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There is no doubt that the various forms of attacks on life often arise from
difficult subjective circumstances that involve profound suffering, depression,
and economic deprivation. The situation we find ourselves in today, however,
goes beyond the merely subjective or personal dimension. The attacks against
life are programmatic and exist at the societal and political level. It is here,
said John Paul II, that a more sinister aspect is revealed -- that is, the
tendency on the part of opinion makers to “interpret the … [attacks] against
life as legitimate expressions of individual freedom, to be acknowledged and
protected as actual rights.”
In this regard, John Paul II spoke of a very real “conspiracy against life” that
works its way outward – from the individual, to the family, and then to the
international community. The conspiracy damages not only individual and group
relationships, but goes far beyond, to the point of distorting relations between
peoples and nations.
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Realizing the seriousness of the situation we find ourselves in, how do we
set about making the family the seedbed for national renewal?
The root crisis confronting the family in the West is a crisis of anthropology –
crisis of the proper understanding of the nature of the human person. It is
recapture the sense of the family situated within the context of a Christian
-- which can be said to be the unique cultural patrimony of the West. When I say
“Christian anthropology” I am referring to the Christian vision of the origin,
destiny of the human person. The human person is the Imago Dei – is made in the
image of God. God creates man and woman in a mutual complementarity. He places
them at the center of the created order. Thus, every social question is
the starting point of the person.
An inadequate anthropology – that is, an improper understanding of the
destiny of the person -- leads to a misguided notion of freedom which exalts the
isolated individual in an absolute way. It also rejects the natural
of man and woman. The consequence – as we have seen -- is the establishment
of systems that benefit the strong at the expense of the weak. These systems
destroy the family by attacking the sense of solidarity and openness to others
that is the very essence of family life.
For the family to become the seedbed for national renewal, we must recover the
essential link between freedom and the truth. In Evangelium Vitae -- the Gospel
of Life -- John Paul II warned that without recovering the link between freedom
and the truth it becomes impossible to establish personal rights on a solid
foundation. “The ground is laid,” he said, “for society to be at the mercy of
the unrestrained will of individuals or the oppressive totalitarianism of public
Of course, the difficulty we face in recovering the essential link between
freedom and the truth is the prevailing ethos of postmodern culture, whose
hallmark is a relativistic interpretation of reality. One commentator recently
noted that “relativism is the mainstream position for postmodern theory across a
wide range of disciplines…”
This “dictatorship of relativism”
creates what Pope Benedict XVI once described as the “deepest poverty… the
inability [to experience] joy, the tediousness of a life considered absurd and
contradictory… [which] produces the inability to love, produces jealousy,
avarice – all the defects that devastate the life of the individual and of the
* * *
John Paul II reminded us that the first and fundamental step in engaging a
postmodern culture is forming every conscience about the incomparable worth of
every human life. More than that, though, he taught that love is the
fundamental and innate vocation of every human being. Love, in the form of a
sincere gift of self, leads to human fulfillment and is the truest expression of
human freedom. It is through this innate “vocation to love” that we discover our
The “vocation to love,” however, is more than just an individual calling.
The family has been established as an intimate community of life and love. The
family itself is entrusted with the fundamental mission to guard, to reveal and
communicate love. It was this mission to which John Paul II referred when he
famously challenged the family to “become what you are.”
John Paul II outlined two tasks for the family to fulfill its mission to
communicate love. First and foremost, the family must be a community of persons:
of husband and wife, of parents and children – all of whom realize their true
potential in relation with one another. The family is a school which enables men
and women to grow to the full measure of their humanity. For children, the
experience of being loved by their parents helps them become aware of their own
dignity. By learning what it means to love and to be loved, children learn what
it actually means to be a person.
The secondary task of the family, and one that is essential if the family is
to be the seedbed for national renewal, is working to create societal conditions
that favor family life.
In 1981, John Paul II proposed a Charter of the Rights of the Family. The
Charter was intended to defend the rights of the family against encroachments
from the State. It included the following principles:
• The right of the family to raise children in accordance with its own
traditions and religious values;
• The right of the family to be responsible for the education of its children;
• The right of the family to profess and propagate its faith; and
• The right of the family to be represented before political authorities.
* * *
Because these rights must be recognized by the State, John Paul II called
upon families to engage in political intervention: Families should be the first
take steps to see that the laws and institutions of the State not only do not
but [actually] support and defend the rights … of the family.” He called for a
new “family policy” whereby families themselves would assume responsibility for
transforming society. Without vigilance in their efforts, he noted, families
become the first victims of injustices perpetrated by society.
The family is uniquely situated to promote human dignity in the debates on
national renewal. The family stands as the mediating institution that protects
vulnerable person from the power of the state. A society built around the family
is the best guarantee against the state “drifting off course into an
collectivism” that would violate human dignity. This is because within the
the person is always the center of attention as an ends and never as a means.”
The family, more than any other institution, understands that the person is
never “a ‘thing’ or an ‘object’ to be used, but [is] – a person endowed with
conscience and freedom.”
* * *
For its part, the State must come to recognize that its own well-being is
bound up in creating conditions for healthy family life.
Without strong families, local communities grow weak. It is within healthy
families that moral values are taught and that the spiritual and cultural
heritage of the nation is transmitted.
The State must also come to recognize that the family does not exist for
the State, but that the State exists for the family. John Paul II insisted that
State recognize that “the family is a society in its own original right.” The
must take priority as the first human society that precedes all others.
The State, therefore, has a serious obligation to adhere to the principle of
subsidiarity. That is to say, public authorities should never take away from the
family the functions which the family can best accomplish by itself. At the same
time, public authorities have an obligation to positively favor the family and
to ensure it has the assistance it needs to fulfill its unique responsibilities.
* * *
Let me conclude by reiterating that the State must recognize the unique
identity of the family as the community of life and love founded upon marriage
between a man and a woman. Only through recognizing the priority of the family
over every other interest group will the spiritual and cultural legacy of the
Families also have an important responsibility – they must acknowledge
the mission entrusted to them – that is, to live out their “vocation to love” –
thus to safeguard the dignity of the person from encroachment by the State.
* * *
As we gather here in Poland we remember the great defender of the
family, our beloved John Paul II. He watches us from the window in the Father’s
house. It is past time we take seriously the challenge he presented to us so
many years ago: “Families, become what you are!”
Thank you. And may God continue to bless the brave people of Poland.
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1 Familiaris Consortio, No. 86.
2 John Stuart Mill, The Subjection of Women reprinted in The Basic Writings of
John Stuart Mill (New
York: The Modern Library, 2002), pp. 173-175.
3 United Nations, World Population Prospects: The 2006 Revision,
4 Talking Turkey, in Investor’s Business Daily. Oct. 5, 2005, A16.
5 Familiaris Consortio No. 6.
6 Familiaris Consortio No. 6.
7 St. Augustine, De Civitate Dei, XIV, 28:CSEL 40, II, 56-57.
8 Switzerland’s Suicide Tourists. CBS Sixty Minutes II, July 23, 2003.
9 Ricardo Cascioli, Euthanasia, The European Temptation, in Avvenire, Oct. 15,
10 Evangelium Vitae, No. 18.
11 Evangelium Vitae, No. 12.
12 Evangelium Vitae. Nos. 18-19.
13 Evangelium Vitae. No. 96.
14 Professor AC Grayling, quoted in Relative Thinking, The Guardian, Nov. 18,
15 Joseph Ratzinger, Homily, Mass Pro Eligendo Romano Pontifice, April 18, 2005.
16 Joseph Ratzinger, Address to Catechists and Religion Teachers, Dec. 12, 2000
17 Evangelium Vitae, 96.
18 Familiaris Consortio No. 1and 11.
19 Familiaris Consortio, 17.
20 Centesimus Annus, 39.
21 Familiaris Consortio, 45.
22 Familiaris Consortio, 44.
23 Familiaris Consortio, No. 44.
24 Compendium, 213.
25 Compendium, 213.
26 Christifideles Laici, 5.
27 Gaudium et Spes, 47.
28 Compendium, 213.
29 Letter to Families, Gratissimam Sane, 7.
30 Familiaris Consortio, 45.